‘My daughter won’t change her inappropriate wedding date’

A mum is in a big row with her daughter over her wedding date, as reported by the Mirror. The mum shared on social media that her family had a tragic car crash two years ago.

She said: “My mother died instantly, my brother and nephew passed away the next day. My family was small, me, my husband, daughter, parents, brother, wife, and two nephews. Their loss was devastating for my life and for everyone, even worse for my father and my sister-in-law.”

The mum then shared how her daughter Betty, who is 25, got engaged last year and picked a wedding date. She added: “During this process, they chose the date based on the day they met seven years ago, but that day is exactly two years since the death of my brother and nephew.

“I tried to talk to her about moving it because it is still a very difficult date for our family and even for myself, but she insisted saying that the venue had that date available and it would be perfect because all the other available dates aren’t so good and wouldn’t be so important. I respected her decision.

“Recently, she sent the invitations to everyone and, as I predicted, my sister-in-law, my nephew, 24, and my father responded that they would not attend.

“They didn’t tell her but told me that they felt the date choice was offensive to them. I decided to remain neutral, I confirmed my presence and my husband.”

After getting no ‘yes’ replies from her family for the wedding invites, Betty rang her mum to grumble.

She said: “My daughter is unhappy that no one but us confirmed and her family part was empty and she expected everyone to go on that date, even more so after she explained the reason to them about the date, but they still refused.”

The woman tried to be kind and told her daughter the date was hard for people because it was when members of the family died. She shared: “I told her she has to understand that this choice of date has this consequence and you would have to deal with the consequences of your choices.”

Her daughter got really mad and yelled that it wasn’t fair, the dates just happened to be the same, and people should try to come for a few hours.

She said: “She exploded at me, saying that everyone was against her, it’s not her fault the dates coincided and everyone could make an effort to go a few hours for her, but they decided to just not go and I was basically saying ‘I told you so’. She hung up without me answering and we still haven’t spoken.”

People on Reddit couldn’t believe what they read about Betty’s choice. One person said: “I mean, you told her exactly why this would happen and she didn’t listen.

“I think she was more upset in front of you than at you if that makes sense. She’s venting. But also kind of thoughtless to think that everyone would just swallow their grief to watch her get married on a really painful anniversary.”

Another added: “That’s not her date to change into something good. She doesn’t get to decide that. So even if that is the case she’s still a massive a**** especially for not doubling down and continuing to try.”