‘I had an affair… then the other woman fell pregnant’

Sharing the ordeal on Reddit, Dereck explained how he and Samantha have been married for seven years, have a six-year-old daughter, and have been trying for another baby for the past four years.

“I started an affair,” Dereck revealed, which “was supposed to be a one-night stand” but ended up going on for years.

“I made it very clear from the beginning that I was married and wasn’t looking for anything more than s*x,” Dereck protested.

Having always been careful when pursuing his mistress, when fertility specialists told Dereck and his wife, Samantha, that it was unlikely they would have another baby, he threw caution to the wind.

“It was after that [when] I stopped protecting myself with the other women,” Dereck said. “I figured no harm could be done.”

Now Dereck has admitted he was “wrong” as “the other woman is pregnant”, even if he first denied it could be his.

“But, sure enough, after a positive DNA test, I was speechless,” said Dereck. “At that moment my life came crashing down.”

Now his mistress is “forcing” Dereck to tell his wife about them and the baby, or else she will sing like a canary.

“‘If you don’t tell her I will,'” Dereck mimicked the other woman. “I agreed [to tell my wife]… I just asked for some time… to talk to my wife on my own terms.”

“Well, she beat me to the punch,” sighed Dereck. “[She] told my wife everything… some way, I convinced my wife not to leave [me].”

Moving away into a new area for a fresh start, it’s only a matter of weeks now until the mistress has Dereck’s baby – and things aren’t plain sailing for Dereck and Samantha.

Dereck said this has been the “hardest thing” he’s ever gone through in his life… he can sense Samantha doesn’t really want to be with him anymore and is saving face for the sake of their daughter.

“I’m just here taking it all in,” Dereck said. “I know I’m not the victim here, but [Samantha] hits every nerve and really knows how to hit me where it hurts with her choice of words.”

Dereck pleaded: “It’s messing with my mental health. How long do you keep coming home to someone who makes you feel like they don’t want you around anymore?

“How long am I supposed to watch her be in pain and know I’m the cause of it all? [But] I don’t want to give up on us.”

Dereck asked the Reddit community: “Do I keep fighting for something that may not be there anymore? Or give up on the woman I love and I truly believe is my soul mate?

“I have no one to talk to so I’m here trying this. What would you do in my position?”

*Names have been changed.